Boosting Self-Esteem:

Introduction

Have you ever felt like you're not quite living up to your potential as a leader?

That nagging doubt can often be traced back to one core issue: self-esteem.

It's more than just feeling good about yourself – it's about recognising and embracing your ability to lead effectively.

Let's look at what self-esteem means for leaders.

Self-Esteem vs. Self-Confidence

Self-esteem and self-confidence, while interconnected, are not the same.

Self-confidence is about your belief in your abilities, whereas self-esteem is about how you perceive and value yourself as a person, and by extension, as a leader.

Leaders with high self-esteem not only believe in their capabilities but also value their role and contributions.

If you often question your worth despite your successes, it's time to look closely at your self-esteem.

Signs of Low Self-Esteem in Leaders

Recognising low self-esteem in yourself is the first step towards improvement. Here are some common signs:

• Hesitation in Decision-Making: Constant second-guessing or delaying decisions due to a fear of making the wrong choice, aka procrastination.

• Disproportionate Fear of Failure: An exaggerated fear of failure, viewing it as a reflection of self-worth.

• Difficulty in Accepting Feedback: Getting overly defensive or upset by criticism.

• Overdependence on External Validation: Relying on others' praise to feel competent.

• Avoidance of Challenges: Shying away from opportunities due to self-doubt.

• Undermining Achievements: Attributing successes to luck rather than personal effort.

• Excessive Perfectionism: Setting unattainably high standards.

• Poor Handling of Conflicts: Avoidance or poor management of confrontation.

• Frequent Comparison with Others: Frequently measuring success against peers.

Practical Strategies to Build Self-Esteem

If you've recognised some of the signs of low self-esteem in yourself, don't worry. It’s a common experience for many leaders, and it's a sign of strength to acknowledge and confront these challenges.

Remember, self-esteem is not set in stone; it can be developed and strengthened over time.

Here are some practical strategies to help you on this journey:

• Set Achievable Goals: Build a record of your successes noting the small as well as the large.

• Practice Mindfulness and Positive Affirmations: Remind yourself daily of your strengths.

• Actively Seek Constructive Feedback: Use that feedback for growth.

• Invest in Professional Development: Enhance your leadership skills.

• Celebrate Your Successes: Acknowledge all achievements, big or small.

• Foster a Growth Mindset: View challenges as learning opportunities. Ask, “What can I learn from this?”

• Surround Yourself with Supportive People: Build a positive network.

• Delegate and Trust Your Team: Recognise the value of your leadership and allow your team to grow and learn.

• Maintain Work-Life Balance: Prioritise personal well-being.

• Engage in Self-Reflection: Reflect on your leadership experiences.

• Journalling: Keep a record of your growth, emotions and experiences.

• Professional Coaching, Therapy or Counselling: Seek tailored insights and strategies.

Closing Thoughts

Every leader, at some stage, faces self-doubt. Remember, it's not the absence of doubt that defines your leadership; it's how you move through it.

Building resilience alongside self-esteem is crucial; it equips you to handle and convert doubt into a force for growth and confidence.

Building self-esteem is about recognising your inherent worth. Take these steps as commitments to yourself and build your self-worth.

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Until next time,

Kaley